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My father frequently use the phrase “love is a verb, not a noun.” His use this quote to emphasis that love is more than a feeling or an emotion; love is the result of a permanent work to progress.

In Smart Marriages Story, the wife discover that he loves her because she focusses in his actions, and through his actions she can discover how much he loves her.

I have loved Gottman’s book because he is not focusing in feelings, or emotions, he focusses in what kind of actions we need to take to be able of have good feelings in our relationship. He explains with specific steps how we can lead our marriage to a strong marriage.

I have been agreed with Dr. Gottman in the fact that the most effective exercise to reduce the stress and problems in the marriage is talk together at the end of the day about how it went. This has been an example from me parents to us. Always, when we enter in their room at night, they are talking about what they faced during the day.

Another point that I would like to add to the things that are important in marriage is sacrifice and obedience to God. A Christians, we know that the lead of our Savior will give us a greater confidence in our marriages.

Love is not just about marriage, I would like to add that love involve all member of a family, the Lord say: “Honor thy father and thy mother, that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.” (Mosiah 13:20). This is the first commandment with a promise.